I answered the phone, and after a few thoughtful comments were exchanged the woman said: “every time my husband walks through the door after work, I feel tremendous anxiety.” Further into the discussion she revealed that she “fortifies” herself in anticipation of his arrival home. Does the husband abuse, neglect, show any kind of unkindness to his wife? “No” was the reply. Do they share a deep caring love? “Yes” was the answer.
The above mentioned conversation may sound unusual, but it was not unexpected, nor a surprising conversation. Having previously studied her chart, I was expecting this sort of information. Individuals often carry issues forward in time from their childhood, hopefully as they develop life perspective they can re-pattern their behavior. To examine our history and consciously make an effort to lift ourself out of cyclical patterns or ruts takes courage and belief that we are of value. Almost everyone has history that could be thought of as negative or difficult. And most of us could point to or suggest how difficult past events influence our present experiences and reactions to others, especially the one’s we love.
Much of our development is prompted from need. Difficult, heart wrenching experiences motive us to seek secure life options. Even today many marriages are a quick routes out of a difficult home situation. Many adults today find themselves redrafting their life plans at a late date: going back to school, learning to support and live by themselves, becoming self-sufficient. When one is in the middle of the storm, contemporary Astrology can illuminate the big picture. Perspective at a trying time is gold and silver, a shining light on your life path.
We have seen friends and family members with the oddest, most unusual behaviors. And we are not surprised when these behaviors happen again, because we have come to know the patterns. Actually I’ve heard many individuals say they can predict “aunties” behavior. They can predict the behavior because the behavior process or sequence is so well defined. But, can “auntie” or “uncle” see the event unfolding in their breathing, living daily life experience?
Upon closer examination we can study specific individuals and see that everyone does not respond equally to similar traumatic experiences. People with similar historical traumas can respond individually with many levels or degrees of self-control and self-direction. Some individuals are forever handicapped by these terrible events, others seem to manage and control the hurt, moving along through life. Others folks however, are resilient, responding to the injury in the most amazing and remarkable manner. Knowledge of self-worth and pride can offer miles of therapeutic assistance.
An ideal community and supportive family can do much to assist those individuals burdened by intense mental pain. The ideal is however often far removed from the one that needs support. Perhaps it, help, can be found at the end of a rainbow! Sometimes however, friends and neighbors (we) can make referrals and offer a helping hand. Make a call to the local social service agency and ask what they can do for your neighbor. I’ve done it, and it helped.
For those who need a nudge, Astrology can often give direction. Astrology can shine clarity on the past, understanding in the present and cast light on one’s future potential. Reframe the picture, change the script, and chart a new course.
AstrologybyJoseph@mac.com
